Dec. 12, 2001
The Other Man’s Point of View – Identifying with Mother
¯ Husbands can be
tyrannical, dominating, rigid, or strict. Wives too, are capable of this.
Whether it is the boss of the office or the son who is an earning member or
anyone who has the freedom for his ego, they can be overbearing which is
¯ The Other Man’s
Point of View is to activate the Supramental element in the mind. Those who
have tried it with bosses, customers, partners, friends and children have been
amazed by the results.
¯ A tyrannical
husband turning affectionately attentive until the docile wife is embarrassed
by his uncalled for obedience that is solicitude in public is the experience of
more than one person who has tried it.
An irksome officious offence changes into sweetness of solicitude that
reaches its uniqueness in dissolution of personality.
¯ This is not what
a wife can ever imagine.
¯ The other man’s
point of view is the all-comprehensive power of life that puts the other person
utterly at your disposal.
¯ One who has seen
that can extend it horizontally to others, or vertically to higher centres of
¯ This includes the
other powerful silent will.
¯ It is a confined
consecration, confined to one person.
¯ One who has
enjoyed this preliminary success, can extend it to his life.
¯ Life for us is
not the wide life but the world of our own people that comprises twenty or
¯ What is it to
take the view of our life, one may ask.
¯ To be able to
take the view of anyone we deal with in any matter as a rule is to take the
view of life.
¯ It can be done by
submission out of timidity or out of understanding of mental clarity.
¯ One will find
when he succeeds that he will be treated as a VIP of life giving him the
feeling for a while that he could accomplish anything he attempts.
¯ That would lead
to inner blossoming and outer flowering.
¯ But, my aim in starting this is not success in life.
¯ It can certainly help him think what it is to take Mother's view.
¯ To espouse Her view in place of one’s own view is a very powerful TOOL of success in life, but it will be selfish.
¯ To take Her view of life for Her sake, for the sake of becoming a
devotee is no ordinary status in life. Our small life that way will become
¯ Though it is not Mother’s life, it is still a great, vast life.
¯ In that sense, one does not identify himself with Mother fully.
¯ In practice, when you try to fully identify yourself with Mother,
you may be able to take the other man’s point of view.
¯ Not to be selfish
is to take the other man’s point of view.
¯ But, man is so
constituted that he is prepared to be selfless if it will serve his own
¯ To be a devotee
is to be selfless.
¯ Mother lived with
us in a human body.
The Universal Mother came to the Ashram to complete the work Mother was
She left as there was no recognition. After Mother left Her body, Her
subtle atmosphere is here. Her writings are there keeping the mental atmosphere
of The Mother.
She lives in the Silence of Her atmosphere as Spirit. That is Her
She lives in Her Supramental atmosphere when She responds to our
In whatever plane She acts, She acts from Her Supramental Force.
¯ To take the other
man’s point of view, to take the view of life, is to move to Mother’s life.
If one does so selflessly, one becomes a devotee.